Stay Safe of STDs & STIs
You’re excited to get started, WE get it.
But before YOU do-
Let's talk safety…because, hey, wild adventures are awesome, but they're even better when everyone's happy, healthy, and in the know.
Trust me, the “awkward health talk” is a tiny blip compared to the amazing experiences you're about to have.
Because having more sex on the regular, should never be at the expense of your health or your safety.
Just like communication is the most important part of ENM relationships, safety is equally important.
Being upfront about it
So Step 1, is obviously visiting a medical professional.
Then, once you've got your test results back, and they're sparkling clean, the fun can begin. Time to let others know you are cleared for safe play.
The easiest way to do that, is to beef up your Feeld profile with a proud "tested quarterly" badge.
If you have no idea what Feeld is, or how to begin, then dive into our Feeld guide—it's like having a safety coach in your pocket.
But it’s super important, that you be completely transparent about your status at all times.
If you say you get tested quarterly, actually get tested quarterly.
This is no time to be ashamed or shy of your results, no matter how bad they may be.
When we meet new couples, we are very upfront about it (as you should be too).
We ask for their STI results, before we have a 2nd meetup
We also request that everyone always uses condoms
We do however have a committed relationship (almost monogamous) with another couple.
So because of our history with them, we can now have sex sans latex.
But remember, trust takes time to build, so go at your own pace.
2. Get specific about your results
Again, if you’re going to be upfront about it, be completely upfront.
Certain STIs are relatively harmless, and it’s your choice whether you want to engage further, once someone has disclosed their status to you.
So when you are asking a couple or individual about their testing history, get specific.
Ask them to show you:
The date of the last test they had
The types of tests they’ve had
The results of each test
Also feel free to ask them about their safe sex practices, as everyone needs to have total clarity before proceeding further.
Then make an informed decision, by first discussing it with your partner, and proceeding only if everyone is on board.
For instance, HPV is like a pesky mosquito bite, while HSV2 needs a bit more attention.
As long as you take precautions during outbreaks, you can still enjoy smooth sailing.
But hey, when in doubt, gear up—it's always better to play it safe.
3. Fostering a Safe Haven
Lastly, nobody should feel ashamed or scared to speak about their results.
Work on creating an open space where sharing STI statuses is as normal as chatting about last night's dinner.
Lead by example with your regular tests and encourage your partners to do the same.
Committing to safety attracts like-minded adventurers.
Always put safety talks on your pre-play checklist.
Respect everyone's comfort zones when it comes to protection.
And please, never lie about safety measures—it's not cool and breaks the trust we all hold dear.
Wrapping Up: Safety First, Always
Being transparent about your health isn't just responsible—it's downright sexy.
Normalizing these conversations sets a positive tone for your ENM escapades.
So that means-
stay up-to-date with your tests,
speak openly, and
respect everyone's boundaries.
Safety isn't a buzzkill; it's the cornerstone of unforgettable connections in your ENM journey.
