Welcome to Communication Bootcamp.

If you’re going to explore non-monogamy, there’s one skill you must master first—

talking about the messy, uncomfortable, and downright awkward stuff.

Great sex starts with great communication. No exceptions.

So before you even think about dipping your toes into the lifestyle, you need to get good at discussing fantasies, boundaries, and desires without cringing, stammering, or avoiding eye contact.

Here’s how to get comfortable talking about anything—

without making it weird.

Step 1: Warm Up Your Partner

You wouldn’t sprint without stretching first, so don’t just blurt out,

“Hey, wanna try a threesome?” and expect a smooth conversation.

Instead, ease into it. Get comfortable talking about sex in a way that feels natural.

Try these warm-up exercises:

🔥 Watch porn together. Pick something that actually interests you. Love the idea of a threesome? Pay attention—do you prefer MFF or MFM? What about the dynamics turns you on? Discuss it.

🔥 Go to a sex shop. Wander through the aisles. See what catches your eye. Maybe she pauses by the strap-ons (hmm… does she have a hidden fantasy?). This is an easy, no-pressure way to start talking about desires.

🔥 Join a community. Experienced swingers and open couples have been exactly where you are now. Listen to their stories. They’ve had the tough conversations—you can learn from them.

PRO TIP: Both of you need to be genuinely excited about exploring non-monogamy. If one of you is hesitant or doing it just to “make the other happy,” pause.

You need an enthusiastic hell yes, not a nervous I guess.

Step 2: Rip Off the Band-Aid

If you’re wondering what to talk about, start here—

Whatever makes you feel awkward as hell.

You need to practice asking for the things you secretly fantasize about.
The ones you barely admit to yourself.
The ones that make you wonder, Will they judge me?

That’s the conversation you must have.

Why? Because in non-monogamy, you’re going to face things like:

⚡ Jealousy
⚡ Awkwardness
⚡ Desire
⚡ Unexpected emotions

And if you can’t talk about those things now, they’ll explode later—and at the worst possible time.

The golden rule? Don’t hide anything.

If there’s an issue in your relationship, non-monogamy will expose it.

Better to deal with it upfront.

Step 3: Own Your Emotions

You will feel vulnerable.

Get used to it.

Whether it’s:

💥 A first meet-up with another couple
💥 Your first time at a swinger club
💥 Navigating boundaries before playing with others

You need to be able to say, This is what I want. How do you feel about it? and wait for their answer—without panic or defensiveness.

Sometimes you’ll hear yes. Sometimes you’ll hear no. Either way, you must be able to handle it like an adult.

Here’s the cool part—when you finally say what you want, you might discover that your partner is way more open-minded than you thought.

Suddenly, nothing is off the table anymore.

And when that happens?

That’s when you start having the best sex of your life. 🔥

Final Takeaway: Keep Practicing

Talking about sex, fantasies, and emotions shouldn’t be a one-time thing.

Keep checking in. Keep pushing those conversations forward.

Because the couples who can talk about anything?
They’re the ones who build relationships that last.

And when you and your partner finally crack the code on open, fearless communication—

You’ll realize you can handle anything together. 💥

How to Talk About Anything (Yes, Even That)