Joining Swinger Forums
Becoming a Swinger was probably
the best decision I’ve ever made in my life,
but finding the right community was a real mood-killer at first.
You're eager to explore, but you have no idea where to actually find other people to connect with or even just have a fun conversation with.
Just so you know, there are tons of great places to find what you’re looking for, you just need to know which to avoid (there are some serious time wasters online).
Ready to find your new pineapple posse?
Then here are some tips to help avoid the same mistakes we made.
Go Research and Identify The Best One for YOU
Like I said, there are tons of options available,
but make sure you know what you’re looking for first.
Advice on How to Start Swinging?
Support network for beginners?
Meeting other couples?
And if you’re looking to meet others, then ask yourself:
What age?
What relationship style?
What area are you in?
If you’re new, stick to the well-known swinger and non-monogamy communities.
You can use things like reviews, testimonials, and recommendations to verify, why people say these are the best.
We added our favorites to our Resources page, to help you get started a bit easier.
These communities really helped us feel supported, when we first joined the lifestyle.
2. Understand Community Guidelines
So every community is different.
Each has its own set of rules and guidelines to maintain a safe and respectful space.
Each also has its own vibe and unique people. Now, I know we all hate terms and conditions, but for this one, I’d suggest reading and understanding these guidelines before joining. Poly, Swinging, Open Relationships, or just General ENM, there are forums for all of that. And each one of them will have unique information about your lifestyle choice.
Also, following the guidelines shows
respect for the community and enhances your experience.
3. Introduce Yourself Thoughtfully
First impressions matter, especially in online communities.
Whenever you join a new forum (this goes for any forum tbh), take a moment to introduce yourself. Share a bit about your interests, your hobbies, and of course, what you're looking to explore. That’ll make it easier to identify other people like you, or experienced couples who can help.
Most forums or communities have an introduce yourself section,
start there.
4. Engage Actively and Respectfully
If you want to get the most out of the communities, you’re going to need to participate.
Putting yourself out there is the best way to still those nervous feelings. Engage in discussions, ask questions, and share your experiences honestly and openly (even what you’re struggling with, or what you’re enjoying.) It could either get you the help you need or help someone else, on the same journey.
The more active you are,
the more trustworthy you also appear to others.
5. Seek Out Local Groups for In-Person Connections
To be honest, online forums are great, but nothing beats an in-person connection.
Meeting your first couple is exciting and daunting, and all kinds of nerve-racking. But it’s like trial by fire, you really only start developing once you start speaking to others. So maybe visit a club together or go to a meetup, and try speaking to some other couples there.
Everyone is adults, and you only need to do what you consent to.
Plus, speaking to someone really is harmful as f*ck.
Conclusion
Joining swinger and non-monogamy forums and communities are a fun part of the journey.
They can help you meet other couples and explore your desires with them, or they can help you make friends or coaches, who can support you in your journey.
It’s really up to you, what you’re looking to find, and what you want out of the community.
Just be yourself, and speak openly.
And consider paying for a premium membership, it really helps weed out the riff-raff and scammers
